Do Your Thang Mama


Motherhood has always come with its challenges. People will always have opinions on what a mother should or should not do. Five people on the right will be suggesting one thing while five on the left suggest the complete opposite. Hey I’m all for being teachable, but if you see a mom that prefers to do her mommy thing differently than you, you can’t force her to do what you would do as a mom. Every woman is made to mother in a unique way because her child is also uniquely made and different from yours. Each mom has her own style. Being welcomed into motherhood isn’t meant to be like entering into a competition.Moms need to support and respect each other, even in their differences of opinion. I’m happy that I’ve witnessed this within the mom community, but unfortunately I’ve also seen the mom shaming and gossiping too. One mama may allow her kid to eat a couple more sweets than the other mama allows her child to. Some moms may write “From Santa” on the Christmas presents while the other mom doesn’t do Santa at all. One day little Josh may have a lunchable that came with a KitKat bar and sugary drink while little Billy has a star shaped turkey sandwich, veggies and water in his lunch box. I love both lunch options for different days by the way! One mom may not want anything to do with breastfeeding while the other mom’s goal is to breastfeed a whole year. Maybe she will even do it in public. I personally cover up but now that I’m a mom and I’ve tried breastfeeding (which is hard!); I say “Hey sometimes a mama’s got to do what she’s got to do.” I refuse to be the person giving dirty looks, judging or whispering something negative about her. Be nice and leave her alone. Some moms may pick up their crying child not long after putting them down for bed while another mom waits it out longer. Do what YOUR mama heart is telling you to do. What works for one mother and child may not work for another. I’ve had people tell me “don’t do it. Don’t go in there.” Then others would say, “It would be good to just get the baby.”  I personally stopped listening to the various voices. In motherhood I really need to lean on God because he knows the best things for me to do since he created me to mother this little person. The list of things some moms prefer and don’t prefer could go on and on and on. No matter what each mom chooses, one mom isn’t better or worse than the other because of their different styles. We have other roles in our lives as well, such as; being wives, nurses, teachers, a friend, sibling, etc. Anyone could share the same tittle, but can’t exactly match who you are as a person. The same goes for the role of “mommy.”

The whole point is we got to let mamas do their mama thang. We should be encouraging each other to listen to those mommy instincts even if that other mom isn’t taking the same route you take. Once again in no way am I saying I’m not seeing this in the mom community, because I do see the good. I’ve also seen mothers give really great advice in loving and caring ways. Sadly, I’ve also seen the negative side as well, which has caused me to want to say: We fellow mamas need to stick to showing grace because there is no such thing as the perfect mama. Truthfully I’m over here just winging it with Jesus, coffee and piles of laundry by my side.

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5 thoughts on “Do Your Thang Mama

  1. Kudos! You are spot on. Every mom has her own parenting style and there are days when everything unravels. We’ve all been there. As you say, the best way is to support each other and let each mama do her “thang.”

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  2. I totally agree. Honestly, when a mom blocks out what other people say, it’s easier for them to instinctly know what to do. Awesome write.

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  3. Great read. It’s so true, I remind myself to not make those snap judgments about other mommas, everyone does things different, not wrong just different. I always make it a point to help out other mommas when I can; smile or play peekaboo with a crying baby, open the door for them, or just saying hi 👋🏻 and I get it. Love and support each other, this Mom gig is tough. Thanks for all the great notes and reminders. 🙂

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